The Studious Girl

Almost everyone that goes (or went) to school would know the studious girl. Though nobody really knows for sure how they exactly came into existence. Most studious girls are an enigma to their school friends as the only things most people seem to know about them is that they're really smart, score really well, are very responsible, hardworking, and... studies in their free time? Gee, I don't know.. I was too busy asking her the answers for our homework.. ^^;

Studious girls are also the victims of the clark-kent-superman syndrome, where if they remove their glasses (and/or studious demeanor),  they stand out supremely and attract lots of attention. It's only natural that these girls then get tons of guys lining up after them, not to mention that there are many (sick) guys who like studious (and obedient) looking girls to begin with :D;

Unfortunately, most guys get blown away by the extreme coldness of a studious girl (in the relationship department, most studious girls are shyly friendly and nice people overall ^^). The natural reaction to this is to conclude that "ah.. she's been buried in books all her life, she doesn't really know how to handle relationships.. and so she's also a little blunt.. It's okay! I'll try harder next time!!"

Hold your horses, boy. While that's often the case, there's a lot more to it. Studious girls are not stupid.. lol duh I mean, they're not living under a rock. They're more than capable of understanding about relationships and very often, they actually realize it if boys are 'going after' them. The real reason why studious girls are extremely cold towards relationships (usually), is because they don't even need it.

Most studies[1] indicate that studious girls are generally very mature and think a lot about their studies and their career, leaving little, if no time for frivolous dating and relationships. Of course, if the right opportunity[2] comes up, they'd be more than able to recognize it and there are many cases of studious girls with successful relationships. I'd also like to add that studious girls are not all stuffy and boring, no, they do know how to have fun like you and me, it's just that know when to have fun and when to.. do other (more important) stuff :P

In a relationship, studious girls are very mature and often think ahead in terms of the health and sustainability of their relationship. In some cases, she might have a very definite and clear idea of what a relationship should be, and will do her best to reinforce / live up to it. It's not an easy task to argue with a studious girl as her maturity helps her back up all her arguments sufficiently and logically. In the same vein, it takes logic and maturity to get your points across to her ^^

Basically, studious girls are pretty open and friendly girls to begin with ^^ the biggest mistake one could make is to assume that they're (social) recluses or live under a rock. It's important to get to know them more instead of asking for the answers for homework.The biggest barrier to getting to know (and understanding) studious girls is the assumption that they only thing you have in common in studies or homework (and who likes to talk about that?). They are not supplementary books, they have interests like you and me~ (though some might be geekier than others :P) don't judge a book by it's cover ;P

[1] Siew, K. (2021) People I haven't met and what they didn't tell me. Journal of Totally Made Up Stuff  9(3), 14-36

[2] That is, if she meets a mature and suitable guy. Emphasis on 'mature'

An apology to academics (that lack tact)

So I openly proclaimed how I was totally against (most) academics for being elitist because they produce totally unreadable manuscripts or journals that serve as a barrier to entry for aspiring students.

looks like a wrestler lol

Until I recently got re-acquainted with (translated works of) fellow great  French philosopher-sociolinguist-historian Michel Foucault (which does not look like what I'd expect him to look like at all).

Quick intro. This guy writes in extremely long sentences, most of them confusing. From the little that I've read, the structure of his sentences can be reduced to; a topic statement, followed by elaboration and tons (and I mean tons) of examples (to the point that by the time you're done reading the sentence, you had to go back to the beginning to see what he was originally talking about).

Notable reviews from colleague of mine that were succinctly put include; "This is the first time I've read a passage where I know the words, but the words don't know me." and "I've never read a journal where I know the meaning of each word, but I have no idea what he's talking about."

And these colleagues of mine are (supposed to be) scholars, so these words that they know a out? Most of the people (that would be classified as laymen) have zero idea of. 'Bombastic' words, as most put it.

It doesn't help that it is often impossible to get at what Foucault is trying to say, "What is his stand?" most will ask. Ah, asking that is the deadliest question and the surest way to fail in reading Foucault. One cannot indulge in the preconditioned inclination that all of us try to comfortably slide back into that is the pursuit of a 'purpose' or a 'conclusion'.

What this (bald) guy's writing does, (in my opinion,) is not to tell you something or to teach you a nugget of his knowledge, no. What ideally would happen is it would raise questions, thus promoting thinking in the reader. It makes you think and question everything! (transforming you into a five year old philosopher) Something I myself strive to do in my writing (which.. makes me think if I'm doing selective reading and seeing what I want to see.. realizing my own 'agenda'.. but that, is another long grandmother story of its own :P)

*rereads everything* ..okay, what I was trying to say (before I went off on a completely different tangent,) is that I owe this (bald!) guy, and probably many other guys I didn't give a damn to research, an apology. They might very well be elitist, but at least I don't think it's right to jump the gun and call the kettle black :(

Because I realized...

...That I write in the exact same way LOL

Sorry guys :P Guess I'm a black dark-skinned pot, huh. And also, apologies to all the readers who have been echoing "TL;DR" all the time ^o^; Is my 'English' that difficult to understand? Or am I unbelievably long winded and unstructured? 

Do let me know okay~ I value feedback very very much (because it boosts my ego so <3) ..that's what's the reply option is for, right? ^o^v

*P.S. - I didn't really feel guilty about calling people (I don't know shit about) elitist. I just really ran out of ideas for what to post today and decided to feature a (bald) philosopher on my blog ;P Thanks for reading~

Listlessness v_v

list·less Adjective   /ˈlis(t)lis/

- (of a person or their manner) Lacking energy or enthusiasm
- personified by the emoticon v_v

How does one rid themselves of listlessness?

Simple, get some lists done! ^_^

*bricked* XP

Seriously, getting some lists to line out what you're going to do would greatly improve your motivation~

I waste tons of time everyday rolling around on my bed and lazing around trying to decide what to do next. "Should I wash my clothes? I feel like eating now though." "Maybe I should go downstairs and update my blogs earlier today so I can wake up early tomorrow~ but I wanna watch a few more episodes of this.." "Hmm.. maybe I should take a nap.." and before you know it, I wasted five hours doing nothing much and feeling pretty listless in the end ^^;

Of course, figuring this out is realy really easy. The hard part begins when you actually begin making lists! Most people feel listless to make lists v_v;

Luckily for you, I have three simple tips for making lists;

A Study on Ideas

Good ideas are those that have halos on their heads and dedicate their lives to serve towards the betterment of everything in general. :)

Bad ideas are those that have horns on their heads and try their best to achieve their selfish goals which have nothing to do with the betterment of anything in general. :(

The end ^o^

Hobbies

Our elders were not joking when they said that its important to have hobbies. I found that hobbies keep one sane, happy, and most importantly, motivated to live *_*

Before one decides on what kind of hobbies one should have, it is important to understand what exactly 'hobbies' mean.

 

Crosspost Feature: Dolphins!

This post originally ran on my livejournal last Thursday~ yes, while I was supposed to be off on holiday from blogging, I go ahead and write the longest post I've written in weeks v__v Irony is me.

Its half story-idea half what-if with bits of national geographic peppered into it *_* I was quite impressed with how it turned out (gosh, I sound so full of myself bwahahaha v__v;;) I hope you'd have a good time reading and imagining~ :D

The Emotional Boy

not to be confused with the emo-kid.

The emotional boy is a peculiar kind of person. On one hand, he's as normal as you and me, but on the other, he does things that we would normally be too embarrassed to even remember doing.

When one looks upon an emotional boy, one would normally see a attractive looking boy. Emphasis on the boy part. Emotional boys are usually youthful looking and have very boyish and pretty boy looks, in contrast to the chiseled weathered manly look or the rugged, bad boy look.

Emotional boys usually seem lonely due to their nature to skew towards being loners. This is mainly due to their inherent nature to be shy, reserved, or a combination of both. They usually bottle up their feelings and keep everything to themselves. 

Many a girl (and guy) have fallen pray to the natural parental instinct of wanting to protect and befriend these delicate creatures, but many have failed miserable due to the lack of comprehension between the two parties that is so required for a healthy relationship :(

In a relationship, emotional boys are extremely caring and loving, giving their partners extreme amounts of attention and care - because subconsciously, they want expect to be treated the same way. Emotional boys are often hopeless romantics and have a strong idea of how a relationship is supposed to be, resulting in tremendous amounts of expectations.

One can liken emotional boys to glass bottles, beautiful and fragile. They loves to store things inside them, but shatter dramatically when under enough pressure. Their shattered fragments easily hurt those that are close to them, and cut deep wounds in those who try to embrace them. 

If one would be interested in getting close to an emotional boy, keep in mind his fragility and most importantly, try your best to understand his expectations as well as learn to recognize when he's bottling things inside him. Enough patience and experience will teach you how to exactly handle one with care and have a successful relationship ^_^